What would you give for the happiness of your children, your significant other, your loved ones? Instead of taking the easy road, wouldn’t you sacrifice what you feel like doing to see them happy, healthy, and whole? Of course you would.
Now ask yourself this: Why don’t you love yourself enough to see yourself happy, healthy, and whole?
Do you truly love yourself?
You say you love yourself, but do you really? Are you taking care of your health? Are you prioritizing play time? Are you listening to your needs? Are you encouraging the pursuit of your dreams?
So many loving and awesome women do this and more for others. Even our relationship advice focuses on forgiving, loving, and encouraging the men and friendships we value. But, a word of caution:
You can’t feed anyone from an empty pot. – Coach Livi
Thinking so little of themselves, some women will remain with abusive, manipulative, disrespectful, and unfaithful men because they “love them”. The belief that giving more of yourself will result in someone changing into a better person is poisonous.
The result is often a heartbroken woman looking for someone else to fix the last man’s mistakes or worst, thinking that all men are the same as the last three, four, or five replacements she prayed would fill the gap.
Stop waiting for someone else to give you what you need. You already have it in spades. You give it to everybody else but you’re neglecting yourself. Set a standard for how you want to be treated by treating yourself.
Learn what makes you happy. Connect with music that speaks to you. Discover the little gifts that make you smile. Sit alone without distractions and find the value in your presence. Write to yourself.
Learning to love yourself is all about balance. It is okay to be a loving and giving woman, just don’t neglect yourself in the process. All the relationship advice in the world can’t help you if you don’t set a standard for your happiness independent of anyone else.